[Soft Skills, Big Feels] Folks in tech are feeling a certain kind of way...


Hey y'all! This month, I want to talk to you about what I've been seeing on the internet.

There's a lot happening in technology today, and many folks in tech have been writing some wonderfully reflective pieces. So I've split up all the best links into sections where I expand on that topic a bit in my own words before dropping you into the things I've found this month. Also in this newsletter - an update on The Party!

In this month's newsletter

  1. The Party Alpha launches this month!
  2. Curiosity, care, and craft
  3. The work beneath the work
  4. State of tech, talent, and ethics
  5. Playful things around the web

1. The Party alpha launches this month!

I've been talking about it a lot but now it's finally becoming real. I've got a few folks joining me in The Party this July to help me test and iterate on what this playful community of care looks like. Each month will feature a theme and events around that theme. This month's theme is:

Tiny Acts of Rebellion

I've spent time curating and designing the community for this alpha stage: making an intro course, building resources, planning events, and creating the best channels to start with for testing. I'm hoping to have some more info on direction within a month or two, and then The Party will go into beta! I'll be opening up the community for up to 25 more peeps at that time.

I'm very thankful for those helping out in alpha community with their feedback, ideas, and energy. Community builds community and I think that's a perfect model (think co-design).

Here's a sneak peek into The Party!


2. Curiosity, care, and craft

How we approach our work shapes not only how we feel, but how we make others feel.

We talk a lot about soft skills as niceties or interpersonal nice to haves, but they're also about ethics and the craft of our work. Care and curiosity are the foundations for ensuring that what we build is truly for people, something that will be a value-add for the world, and not just a company's bottom line.

With that said, the following links (with tiny commentary from me) dive into care as a design practice (anyone can practice design methodology), the creativity needed to resist crap solutions and the enshittification of the everything (that's a real word now, sadly), and the need for staying open to constant learning (yes, even in reinventing the wheel). They also make the case that accessibility isn't an afterthought, but a core responsibility for all of us.

Design is Care

How the two are interwoven.

Good Design is Imagination and Inspiration

Creativity and imagination are soft skills linked to more humane, thoughtful tech.

Reinvent the Wheel

We often hear "Let's not reinvent the wheel again" but if we hadn't, wheels would be shite, wouldn't they?

You're not an Accessibility Specialist Until...

All of these have happened to me, and I'm sure you have your own "You're not an N until..." version. Hit reply and tell me yours!

Accessible Rick-Rolling

Yes, you read that right!

Design Beyond Barriers

A playful way to explore some common accessibility questions.


3. The work beneath the work

I know I say this often, but we spend 1/3 of our lives working. Home is our #1 social space, and our second social space is our workplace. Work is never just a job; it's a relationship with ourselves, others, and meaning.

We often get sold the idea that work should be easy to define with a role, a title, or transaction. The truth is more complex. It's emotional and full of expectations we don't talk about as much as we should.

These articles invite us to think and reflect about the unspoken emotional labor of our jobs and understanding our own needs in the workplace.

The Relationship is the Job

Start here for some reflection on workplace expectations and needs.

On How Long It Takes to Know if a Job is Right for You or Not

Facing uncertainty? Afraid to make the wrong choice? TL;DR - you already know what you have to do.

Your Manager is Not Your Best Friend

Mic drop. A one of a kind perspective about boundaries and expectations.

The Designer's Hierarchy of Career Needs

A three step visual for design career progression.


4. State of tech, talent, and ethics

Like I've talked about earlier in this newsletter, tech isn't neutral. We're building something that shapes our futures for better or for worse. As folks working in tech, what we build reflects our values, our blind spots, and our ethics (or perhaps, lack of ethics). From the market's shifting priorities to the risks and hype cycles around AI, these articles ask us to look at the tech industry through a critical lens. Where are we going....or more importantly, where will we arrive?

SignalFire State of Talent Report - 2025

A look at intense market shifts using data from the Beacon AI platform

The First Big AI Disaster is Yet to Happen

The train's in motion, but no one's at the helm.

A Knockout Blow for LLMS

Even Apple admits things are going sideways in AI.

How Tech Workers Really Feel About Work Right Now

Insights from over 8,200 tech workers

ChatGPT May be Eroding Critical Thinking Skills

According to a new study by MIT.

A LinkedIn Post on the Importance of Professional Learning and Development

My own reflections on a poll by Peter Merholz about professional development and learning opportunities for designers


5. Playful things around the web

On a less serious note, here are some playful things I've found this month.

Strong Password Generator

This isn't just any password generator...check it out for yourself!

Vystery

My new morning game! Challenge your pattern recognition, decision making under uncertainty, and problem solving by guessing the image in the least amount of moves.

A Garden of Sleep: Tracking the Emotional Distance Between Two Bedtimes

A beautiful story about data visualization, creativity, and relationships.


Thanks for tuning in! Question for me? Something you want to chat about in this edition of the newsletter? Hit reply! Replies go straight to me, Lissy.


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